What Surrogates May Expect Post-Delivery

Surrogacy is a noble act of carrying a baby for a couple who cannot conceive or carry a child themselves. It is a selfless act that requires immense dedication, patience, and sacrifice. Surrogacy involves many legal, ethical, and emotional considerations, and surrogates should be aware of what they may expect post-delivery.

First and foremost, surrogates may experience physical changes after delivery. Pregnancy and childbirth can be challenging for a woman’s body, and it may take some time to recover. Surrogates may experience physical discomfort, such as postpartum bleeding, pain, or fatigue. It is essential to follow proper medical advice and take adequate rest and nutrition to help the body heal.

Emotionally, surrogates may experience a range of feelings after delivery. They may feel a sense of fulfillment and happiness for having helped a couple achieve their dream of parenthood. At the same time, they may also experience a sense of loss, separation, and sadness now that the process is complete. These feelings are entirely normal and should be acknowledged and addressed with support from family, friends, or a mental health professional.

Although rare, in some cases, surrogates may face legal challenges post-delivery.  In cases of gestational surrogacy, this is usually limited to notarized signatures to help establish judgments of parentage in post-birth-order states. As always, it is important for surrogates to have a clear understanding of the surrogacy laws in their state or country and have all legal agreements in place before starting the surrogacy process. Surrogates should work with an experienced surrogacy agency or attorney who can guide them through the legal process and protect their rights and interests.

Post-delivery, surrogates may also need to establish boundaries with the intended parents. While some surrogates may wish to maintain a close relationship with the intended parents and the baby, others may prefer to have limited or no contact. While these types of expectations are usually communicated before a surrogate matches with intended parents, it is crucial to understand that these preferences may shift over time.  Clear and respectful communication with the intended parents helps establish boundaries that work for everyone involved.

Many surrogates will agree to provide breast milk for a period of time following delivery.  For surrogates who are not local to their intended parents this includes, pumping, freezing, and shipping breast milk.  This can be big job, and most surrogates are compensated additionally for their efforts.  Established agencies help surrogates navigate the intricacies of transporting breast milk to ensure that shipments safely arrive.

After the birth of a surro-baby, many surrogates may choose to reconnect with their own families. The surrogacy journey can be emotionally and physically demanding, and surrogates may have invested much time and energy in the process. Thus, it is natural for surrogates to want to shift their focus back to their loved ones after delivery. Some surrogates may opt to take a trip with their families to celebrate the end of their surrogacy journey, while others may choose to spend quality time with loved ones at home. Regardless of the method, the period after delivery is a special time for surrogates to reconnect with their own families after helping build a family for others.

Finally, surrogates may need to cope with the stigma and misconceptions associated with surrogacy. While surrogacy is a legal and ethical way of helping others build a family, it is still misunderstood by some people. Surrogates may face criticism, judgment, or discrimination from others who do not understand their decision to become a surrogate. It is essential to be prepared to handle such situations and educate others about the positive aspects of surrogacy.

In conclusion, surrogacy is a complex and rewarding process that requires careful consideration and preparation. Surrogates may expect physical, emotional, legal, and social challenges post-delivery. However, with proper support and guidance, surrogates can navigate these challenges and feel proud of their contribution to creating a new life. Surrogacy is a beautiful act of kindness, and surrogates should be celebrated and appreciated for their selfless act.  To learn more about becoming a surrogate please contact us at info@elevatebaby.com