Remember 7th-grade biology? Talking about male and female reproductive systems? Remember how your buddies felt awkward talking about sex with a cute girl sitting next to them? But you remember how disappointing and unfair it felt that only hetero couples could create a baby.
At that time, you knew you wanted a family, but you also knew you wouldn’t be with a woman. So, you put your family dreams in your back pocket and hoped for a miracle one day.
As a gay couple, it does take a little more planning for you to have a baby. But, with egg donation, your dream of having your own biological family can be achieved.
Read on to understand the miraculous process of how men having babies can become a reality.
We’re not gonna lie, the process of men having babies can get expensive. As intended parents, it is up to you to cover all the fees associated with the egg donation process. These fees cover a range of mandatory items such as:
Plan on spending anywhere from $18,000 to $30,000 to secure a donor and support her financially from beginning to end of her egg donation.
Find an Agency
A quick google search will show that there are many egg donation agencies out there. The trick is finding a good one.
We suggest finding an agency that has been through the process themselves. They know how vulnerable intended parents feel when they put all their trust into an agency to help them build a family.
Find an agency that has a good reputation, great professional relationships with doctors and clinics, and a great database of donors to choose from. Don’t take this decision lightly. Finding the right agency to work with can make or break your egg donor experience.
Men Having Babies Must Choose a Donor
This is the fun part. You get to hand pick the genes for your future babies. But, before hand-picking your most desired genetic traits, you need to think about what kind of donor agreement you’d like.
This is an open form of egg donation. In the agreement, the intended parents and the egg donor have mutually decided that they will have some sort of relationship. This means they can call or email through the process, discuss certain issues, and allow the donor to even meet the child one day if desired.
Intended parents and egg donors agree on some sort of limited contact that all parties are comfortable with. Perhaps the intended parents want to talk to the donor once or twice during the process, but other than that, there no exchange of information.
With an anonymous egg donor, you will only receive the background information about your donor. The intended parents and the egg donor agree to respect each other’s privacy during the egg cycle and moving forward.
There is no right or wrong answer to what kind of agreement should be made. Think about what you feel most comfortable with, then find a donor who fits into your plan.
Hormone Treatment and Egg Retrieval
Seriously. For an egg donor, this is a very taxing time both physically and emotionally. Show your donor unwavering support.
Once the eggs are retrieved, they are fertilized with the intended couples’ sperm. After a certain amount of time, the eggs are assessed to see which ones have responded well. These fertilized eggs are now called embryos.
Only the best embryos are implanted. Through scientific research, we can predict which embryos have the best chance of making it through a healthy pregnancy.
At this time, you can get either implant into your surrogate right away, or you can store your eggs until you’re ready for a baby.