Misconceptions About Becoming a Surrogate

Becoming a surrogate is a life-changing decision, one rooted in compassion, purpose, and personal strength. While surrogacy is more widely recognized today than ever before, it’s still surrounded by outdated myths and misconceptions.

At Elevate, we believe every potential surrogate deserves to feel informed, supported, and empowered. Let’s explore the most common misconceptions about becoming a surrogate and uncover the truth behind the journey.

Misconception #1: Surrogates Form a Deep Emotional Bond With the Baby

Truth: Surrogates understand from the start that the baby isn’t theirs.

One of the most widespread assumptions is that surrogates become emotionally attached to the baby they carry. But here’s what most people don’t realize: surrogates enter the process with crystal-clear expectations. This isn’t their child; it’s a child they’ve been entrusted to carry for someone else.

At Elevate, all surrogates complete a thorough psychological screening to ensure emotional readiness. Most women who choose to become surrogates already have children of their own, and they often describe the experience as joyful, empowering, and deeply fulfilling, not heartbreaking.

You can read more about this in our post on building a relationship with intended parents.

Misconception #2: The Process Is Quick and Simple

Truth: Surrogacy is a commitment that takes time, planning, and preparation.

Surrogacy is not a shortcut to pregnancy; it’s a highly involved process that includes medical, legal, and emotional steps. Before carrying a pregnancy, potential surrogates complete medical screenings, background checks, and in-depth interviews to confirm they meet Elevate’s requirements.

Once matched with intended parents, surrogates begin medication protocols to prepare for embryo transfer, followed by months of pregnancy monitoring and postpartum support. The whole journey can span 12–24 months from application to delivery.

That’s why Elevate offers dedicated case managers to walk with you through every stage—from matching to birth and beyond.

Misconception #3: Surrogacy Is Only About Financial Compensation

Truth: Surrogates are motivated by more than money; this is about meaning.

Yes, surrogates receive compensation. And they should. Surrogacy requires time, physical effort, and emotional energy. But money is rarely the primary motivator.

In fact, most Elevate surrogates tell us they were drawn to this path by a desire to help another family grow. Many have witnessed friends or family struggle with infertility and feel called to be part of the solution. The compensation simply helps support their own household while they support someone else’s dream.

Our compensation package is fair, competitive, and transparent; however, what we hear time and again is that the emotional reward lasts much longer than the financial reward.

Misconception #4: Surrogacy Isn’t Safe

Truth: The safety of surrogates is always the top priority.

All medical procedures related to surrogacy, from hormone protocols to embryo transfers, are managed by highly qualified fertility specialists. Surrogates are monitored closely throughout the process to ensure both their health and the baby’s well-being.

At Elevate, we only work with the top fertility clinics and reproductive physicians. Our surrogates receive premium medical care, comprehensive insurance coverage, and access to additional wellness resources throughout the journey.

No pregnancy is without risk, but our team is committed to providing a safe, supported experience from start to finish.

Misconception #5: Surrogates Don’t Receive Emotional Support

Truth: Elevate surrogates are never alone.

Emotional well-being matters just as much as physical health, and at Elevate, support is woven into every step of the journey. Surrogates have access to ongoing counseling, peer support groups, and direct communication with our team whenever needed.

In fact, many surrogates form lasting relationships with their intended parents, creating a beautiful circle of connection that goes far beyond the pregnancy itself.

We’re proud to offer a community that uplifts, encourages, and celebrates every surrogate’s contribution.

Final Thoughts: Dispelling the Myths, Honoring the Journey

Surrogacy is not just a medical process, it’s an act of generosity and love. And yet, misconceptions can cloud what is, in reality, a courageous and purpose-driven choice.

By challenging the myths, we honor the truth: that surrogates are extraordinary individuals who help make families possible. They deserve accurate information, unwavering support, and our highest respect.

Thinking about becoming a surrogate?
Explore our surrogacy requirements, compensation breakdown, or start your application today. We’ll walk with you, every step of the way.