How to Match/Work With a Surrogate

If you are considering using a surrogate to welcome your future child into the world, you may have a lot of questions regarding the journey. Before you can really begin your surrogacy journey, it is important you know how to match with a surrogate that is right for you and how to work with them throughout the journey to ensure things go as smoothly as possible. 

At Elevate Surrogacy, we understand that surrogacy may be a challenging path for the intended parents and potential surrogates. That is why we do our best to guide you throughout the entire journey so you may be equipped with the resources necessary to enjoy this special experience as you work towards building your family. 

What Are the Best Tips For Matching With a Surrogate in California?

As an intended parent, the journey of matching with a surrogate can be exciting and stressful all at once. While you are excited about the potential of building a family, it can also be stressful to choose who may be bringing your future child into the world. When beginning the journey of matching with your future surrogate, here are three tips to help make the journey an overall positive experience for you both.

Prior to Your Surrogacy Match Meeting

Prior to the match meeting, you will have been presented with a detailed profile of the potential surrogate. Both you and the potential surrogate should already meet each other’s unique non-negotiable criteria. These non-negotiable criteria may include the following:

  • Compensation Agreement
  • Location
  • Number of embryos to transfer
  • Willingness to terminate pregnancy
  • Selective reduction
  • What support the surrogate will receive throughout the journey

It will be beneficial to think of open-ended questions to ask the surrogate before you meet them. You should aim to get to know who they are and what their lifestyle entails so you can understand whether you both will be a good match in moving forward. 

During Your Surrogacy Match Meeting

When you meet your potential surrogate, the meeting should be relaxed, casual, stress-free, and an opportunity for you to connect with them on a personal level. During the meeting, both parties should be attentive and mindful. A representative from the surrogacy agency will be there to accompany you as the moderator. This will help ensure that both parties reach a consensus on all essential topics, including desired level of communication throughout and after the journey, the option to be present in the delivery room, the option for breast milk, and more. You should not expect perfect answers from your potential surrogate. Instead, you should focus on whether or not this will lead to a pleasant and respectful partnership as you build a family.

After the Surrogacy Match Meeting

After the match meeting, both parties should take time to think before making any decisions. While it is recommended that either party informs the other of their final decision within 24 hours after the meeting, it is still crucial that neither party feels pressure to make a decision on the spot. Not only will this provide the potential surrogate with confidence in your relationship, but it also gives the surrogacy agency flexibility in presenting the surrogate to other interested intended parents if you choose to pass on the potential surrogate.  

Begin Your Surrogacy Journey With Elevate Egg Donor Agency Today

At Elevate Surrogacy, we understand that intended parents can easily feel overwhelmed when beginning the journey of matching with a surrogate. Our founders Kyle Dean Massey and Taylor Frey have gone through the surrogacy journey themselves and know firsthand how life-changing it can be for individuals looking to build a family. 

With years of experience serving high-profile and celebrity clients, we treat all intended parents with the same concierge-level service to ensure joyful and successful journeys. We will go above and beyond to make sure you’re happy with your surrogate. Contact us today for more information regarding your surrogacy journey by calling (323) 933-8918 or filling out our contact form.


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