How Can I Prepare to Be a Surrogate Mother?

Surrogacy is an incredible way to help those who cannot conceive a child of their own. As a surrogate, you can give the gift of life and help make someone’s dreams of having a family come true. However, becoming a surrogate is a significant decision and requires a lot of preparation. In this article, we’ll discuss five key steps you can take to prepare for your surrogacy journey.

1. Choose a reputable agency.

One of the most critical steps in preparing for surrogacy is choosing a reputable agency to work with. An agency can help guide you through the process, provide support, and connect you with intended parents. It’s important to do your research and select an agency that has a good reputation, is transparent, and prioritizes your safety and well-being. A reputable agency will also ensure that you are matched with intended parents who share your values and expectations.

2. Be medically prepared.

Before becoming a surrogate, you need to ensure that you are medically prepared. This includes making sure you’ve had a recent pap smear and have no underlying medical conditions that could impact your ability to carry a pregnancy to term. Additionally, if you use an intrauterine device (IUD), you may need to have it removed before beginning the surrogacy process. It’s important to speak with your healthcare provider and the agency you’re working with to ensure that you’re physically and emotionally prepared for the journey.

3. Start taking a multi-vitamin or prenatal.

As a surrogate, you’ll undergo intensive medical screening.  Lab work required by the FDA will check for adequate levels of many common vitamins and supplements to ensure that your body is providing a healthy environment for the baby you’re carrying. One way to prepare yourself for these tests is by starting a prenatal vitamin or multivitamin with folic acid and other supplements before your screening appointment. By starting this regiment early, it can help avoid speed bumps in the medical clearance process.

4. Join a support group.

Surrogacy can be a fulfilling but emotional journey. It’s essential to have a support system in place to help you navigate the highs and lows. Many agencies, like Elevate, offer monthly support meetings for surrogates who are currently matched and pregnant, as well as those who are just beginning their journey. These meetings can help provide insight and help shape expectations and preferences along with the added support. Joining a support group can also help you connect with other surrogates who understand what you’re going through.

5. Talk to your family/support person.

It’s important to discuss surrogacy with your family, friends, and support person. This is a significant decision that will impact your life, and it’s essential to have those closest to you understand and support your decision. Additionally, if you have children, it’s important to have an age-appropriate conversation with them about surrogacy and what it entails. You want to ensure that everyone is on board and understands what you’re committing to before beginning the surrogacy journey.

Becoming a surrogate is a significant decision that requires a lot of preparation. It’s essential to choose a reputable agency, be medically prepared, start taking a prenatal or multivitamin, join a support group, and talk to your family/support person. By taking these steps, you’ll be well-prepared for your surrogacy journey and can help make someone’s dream of having a family come true. Remember, surrogacy is a selfless act that requires a lot of dedication, but it’s also one of the most rewarding experiences you can have.  If you are interested in learning more about becoming an Elevate surrogate, please contact us at


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